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Nice Guys and the White Knight Syndrome

Nice Guys and the White Knight Syndrome

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Unfortunately too many nice guys can relate to this picture demonstrating the White Knight syndrome. For those who don’t know what the White Knight syndrome is, it is a disparaging term used to describe nice guys who try to protect a woman from having sex with a jerk. The way it usually works is like this, a nice guy sees a woman who is sexually attracted to a jerk and he proceeds to try to stop that from happening. This is not necessarily to hate on the jerk, it is primarily to protect her from making a mistake. His motivation is more about concern for the woman, than it is about hating.

There are many tactics that many different nice guys use to try to protect the woman, the most common nice guys use is to treat her like an adult be direct and tell her some variation of” hey I think getting with this guy is a mistake that you will regret”. And after you tell her that then what does she end up doing even if she agrees with you, she ends up having sex with the jerk. The question is why?

This phenomenon seems to happen so many times with so many different women? Common sense would dictate that If she was going to have sex or get with a guy, then why not the guy who’s looking out for her best interest and is proving it to her by trying to keep her from making a mistake? Because most nice guys are confused by her actions, they will be extremely tempted to see her still trying to get with the jerk as proof that women want jerks over nice guys, and this is not necessarily the case. What many nice guys do not see it a crucial mistake they are making when it comes to these situations.

The first thing nice guys don’t understand is that just because you tell somebody that’s something that’s bad for them does not necessarily stop them from wanting it especially if they do not have another option. If a woman is aroused buy the jerk and you tell her not to get with the jerk because he is bad for her that information will do little to diminish her desire. She may know that he is bad for her but she is still turned on and wants to do something with that energy.

Think of it like this if you are working at restaurant and you see a sandwich sitting out on the table for 24 hours and then you were to see somebody come up and start to eat that sandwich, you would tell them, “stop, that sandwich is bad for you”. Now if that person was hungry enough then that person would still eat that sandwich as soon as you turned your back even if they agreed with you that the sandwich is not the best thing for them.

The question is how do you stop that guy from eating something bad for him? The best thing you can do for that person who was hungry is to give them something else to eat, something better. It is the same with being a nice guy interacting with a woman who is dealing with a jerk.

Most nice guys do not make their intentions clear by that I mean most nice guys do not make it clear to woman that he is also an option. That is why a lot of the times when you finally break down and tell a woman how you feel she says I had no idea many times they do not. So understand that if you do not give a woman another option then she will usually pick the only option that she has the jerk. Never forget women only have sex with jerks because they can’t have sex with nice guys. Give them a better choice and trust them.

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Lessons from a Legendary Nice Guy

Lessons from a Legendary Nice Guy

John Dickerson is an old school underground member of the NGN from the 1980’s and 90’s. He recently came out of his self-imposed exile and returned to the NGN to talk to us about approaching and interacting with women. Here are some quotes from his secret talk to help nice guys be better.

Approaching a woman is often as simple as giving yourself a reason to go up to her and talk to her.

Whoever initiates is the interaction is the one responsible for moving the interaction forward. That is a big part of what it means to lead.

No matter how much experience you have or how much game you have, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. You never get use them or the feelings they inspire, and you are not suppose to. Too many nice guys try to fight that feeling, don’t the more you fight it the more it controls you.

The first moments of establishing your self is important. This is when you establish what you think about and want from her, and what you think she should know about you. It is where you began to establish the dynamic of how you relate to each other.

In almost any interaction there is a moment where everything hangs in the balance, where she has to choose to accept your offer. This is not a moment to be feared but embraced because this is the time when you find out if you two are right for each other.

Some interactions simply just come down to chance, logistics, and probabilities that have nothing to do with your attraction. The chance that she has a husband, in town for one night, the one time you decide to ride with your friend instead of driving your own car, etc. These are all logistical situations beyond your control.

It is very easy to be overwhelmed by a beautiful woman. That spike of adrenaline the increased blood pressure and that sense of desire she can create in you can make it impossible to have a clear head when you need it the most. It is in these moments that you have to rely on your game plan the most.

For any nice guy who approaches women he knows that he is going to have to accept rejection, it is part of the game, and part of giving the woman a choice. But you should never have to accept the disrespect some women choose to use when rejecting you. How you choose to handle it is up to you, but disrespect it never OK.

A beautiful woman is going to affect you no matter how much experience you have. Just remember that each one is unique, what worked on one woman for you in the past may not necessarily work on the woman in front of you. Don’t let that throw you off.

Just because a woman is attracted to you or likes you does not necessarily mean she will give you the response you are looking for.

A lot of people think the term pick-up artist means super-hero, or at least something close to it. In the popular mind they’re thought of as the ultimate ladies man, able to get every woman. The fact is a good pick-up artist is someone one who is using skills, strategy, and techniques that they have worked their butt off to master to get the girl. When it works they seem unstoppable. When it doesn’t they end up rejected just like everyone else.

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Another Reason Why Nice Guys Do Not Believe In Themselves

Another Reason Why Nice Guys Do Not Believe In Themselves

This weeks’ audio is about why so many nice guys believe a lot of lies about themselves, such as: Women do not want them, women prefer jerks, jerks are better in bed than nice guys, nice guys are weak, and so much more. Even though this is not true, many nice guys still believe it, this week we talk about why that is the case for so many of us.

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J.F.K. and the Nice Guy

J.F.K. and the Nice Guy

Deceiving a woman to get her into bed is easy. All you have to do is make her believe that you will either: pay her, love her, will get her a job, or just tell her whatever she wants to hear to get her into bed. But living with the knowledge that you had to manipulate her to get sex will change you forever. Because what you are doing is telling yourself that you do not think that you are good enough to get her by being yourself. It is hard to respect yourself, the sex, or the woman when you think like that.

Taken from a Q and A with Dr. John Henery Clarke, President of the N.G.N. the day before his assassination in 1963.

The N.G.N. Time line has been updated!

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We have found audio from President of the United States and former N.G.N. member John F Kennedy. The audio is an excerpt from The President talking about the assassination of Dr. John Henry Clarke and the growing conspiracy against the nice guy. Many people believe this is the speech that got JFK killed by those who wanted destroy nice guys and the N.G.N.

Go to the time line and and hear what JFK had to say about nice guys and the N.G.N.

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Overwhelmed Nice Guy

Overwhelmed Nice Guy

I was talking to a fellow Militant Nice Guy about a Militant Nice Guy in training who struggling with his niceness. The Militant Nice Guy in training was overwhelmed by all of the negative information and attitudes in the media, online, and in the culture against nice guys. This is how I suggested he deal with those who think being a nice guy is a bad thing.

 

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