Lessons from a Legendary Nice Guy
John Dickerson is an old school underground member of the NGN from the 1980’s and 90’s. He recently came out of his self-imposed exile and returned to the NGN to talk to us about approaching and interacting with women. Here are some quotes from his secret talk to help nice guys be better.
Approaching a woman is often as simple as giving yourself a reason to go up to her and talk to her.
Whoever initiates is the interaction is the one responsible for moving the interaction forward. That is a big part of what it means to lead.
No matter how much experience you have or how much game you have, a beautiful woman is a beautiful woman. You never get use them or the feelings they inspire, and you are not suppose to. Too many nice guys try to fight that feeling, don’t the more you fight it the more it controls you.
The first moments of establishing your self is important. This is when you establish what you think about and want from her, and what you think she should know about you. It is where you began to establish the dynamic of how you relate to each other.
In almost any interaction there is a moment where everything hangs in the balance, where she has to choose to accept your offer. This is not a moment to be feared but embraced because this is the time when you find out if you two are right for each other.
Some interactions simply just come down to chance, logistics, and probabilities that have nothing to do with your attraction. The chance that she has a husband, in town for one night, the one time you decide to ride with your friend instead of driving your own car, etc. These are all logistical situations beyond your control.
It is very easy to be overwhelmed by a beautiful woman. That spike of adrenaline the increased blood pressure and that sense of desire she can create in you can make it impossible to have a clear head when you need it the most. It is in these moments that you have to rely on your game plan the most.
For any nice guy who approaches women he knows that he is going to have to accept rejection, it is part of the game, and part of giving the woman a choice. But you should never have to accept the disrespect some women choose to use when rejecting you. How you choose to handle it is up to you, but disrespect it never OK.
A beautiful woman is going to affect you no matter how much experience you have. Just remember that each one is unique, what worked on one woman for you in the past may not necessarily work on the woman in front of you. Don’t let that throw you off.
Just because a woman is attracted to you or likes you does not necessarily mean she will give you the response you are looking for.
A lot of people think the term pick-up artist means super-hero, or at least something close to it. In the popular mind they’re thought of as the ultimate ladies man, able to get every woman. The fact is a good pick-up artist is someone one who is using skills, strategy, and techniques that they have worked their butt off to master to get the girl. When it works they seem unstoppable. When it doesn’t they end up rejected just like everyone else.